Rob Explaining the exercises
My new client painted a dire picture for me. He was divorced, recovering from a car accident, broke, had bad smoking and marijuana habits, and was feeling very stuck. He was literally living in the basement both physically and energetically. I gave him the following exercise to move out of that sub-terrain world he was living in to the next level of his evolution.
Part One
● Short term (something you can do in the next 30 days)
● Mid-Term (tasks you can accomplish in the next 6 months
● Long-Term (tasks that are attainable but will take longer)
Some examples are:
● Cut cigarettes down from 1 pack to 10/day (short-term)
● Go to the gym 3x/week (short-term)
● Create a food diary and keep it (short-term)
● Lose 10 pounds (mid-term)
● Save $1000 (mid-term)
● Apply back to College (long-term)
● Stop smoking (long-term)
Here is my chart:
1) I am skinny.
2) Go to the gym 3 days per week. Mark each day on the calendar.
Stick to healthy eating for 30 days straight. Also mark each day on the calendar.
Have an honest, "unhidden" discussion with my girlfriend.
Get back to letter writing. Write one letter per week.
Restart my personal development plan. Make 2 coaching calls in February. Read two books in February.
3) I would like to just be happy to drop out of the universe. Probably the best thing to do first would be to stop going to OM circle every Monday.
1) I"m not an outgoing person.
2) Continue working out 3 days per week and eating healthy. I will lose 10 lbs.
Save Money for house repair. $40,000 in my account by August.
Plan house repair. Develop an outline on my wall as I go. They will be visible.
3) Mid term goal would be to get my wife a house of her own so that she can live with a little more comfortable and quiet. Then also I could have this little house to myself.
1) Gives me a negative self image.
2) House is leveled and livable with utility room and decks.
I'm in a fun, healthy, unhidden relationship.
I'm living unhidden.
3) Long term I would be happy to be relieved of all responsibilities to do with living. Ie die
Part Two
Acquire an accountability partner. This person (or persons) will be the one who will witness you on your journey to build your self-esteem. They are not acting like a coach or a mentor, just someone who can be your cheering squad on your journey. I’ve created the free Facebook Group, Living unHIDDEN, for just this task. Feel free to create a post a day with the outcome of your journey.
If you prefer to have an intimate friend or existing coach, I recommend that you send them an email daily with your progress. For my clients, I ask them to send me the following:
● What steps you accomplished that day towards your goals.
● What actions did you take that were antithetical to your goals?
● What are your plans for tomorrow?
Each day, be 100% self-aware and pour your results into that email. Celebrate your successes and notice where you stopped yourself short. The person who receives the email may comment but they do not have to. The emails are for YOU and not for you. Another option can be, if you so dare, to post your results on social media. Whew! That might bring up some emotion.